Hi everyone,
My name is Cody and I’m a 33-year-old transman hoping to receive some support in raising money for my top surgery. I’ve known all my life that I didn’t fit into societal norms. I’ve always felt like my soul had been placed in the wrong body. I’d spend countless nights as a child hoping and praying that I would wake up a biological male. When I hit puberty and realized that wasn’t an option, my world shrank. I knew I wasn’t happy, but I felt like I had to conform to what society expected of me, what my parents expected of me. I wanted so bad to just be happy and love my body. I tried for years, 30 years. I tried to fix myself. It took me over 20 years to come to the conclusion that there’s nothing wrong with my soul that needs to be fixed. It was my body not aligning with my mind. It felt like a cruel joke, a trap. Then one day, I saw a transman online who had transitioned later in life and realized that I still had a chance to be happy. I didn’t have to continue in this trap, this sack of skin that I had no connection to. This is my chance. I’ve spent my whole life caring for my parents due to disabilities, and I’ve struggled to get to where I am today. I am finally taking the steps I need to be happy. I started my social transition in 2020 and started medically transitioning in 2022. I am so grateful and thankful to be able to receive my HRT and start my life again, but there’s just one thing (maybe 2) hanging in the way. Top surgery is my way to break free of the chains that have been holding me down for most of my life. Top surgery is the one thing I need the most right now to continue my life. The dysphoria I feel is life-altering in the worst way, and if I could get this surgery, it would open so many doors to a new life of happiness. Unfortunately, my happiness seems to have a price tag that I cannot afford without help. I hate asking for help, but I can’t achieve my goal alone. I work full-time, and I pay rent and bills. I don’t make a lot of money, and I live paycheck to paycheck just trying to survive. I recently have had to move my disabled mother into my home and support her because her social security check is not enough. Having to support her and my family takes a big chunk of money away each month. I don’t have the means right now to put anything into savings. I have surgery scheduled for February of next year. I’m hoping that if I can get some help and put whatever I can to the side, I will be able to afford to get my surgery. I know the way things are politically right now, it’s hard to find support for my community, but we exist, and we just want to be alive. I don’t expect much from this, but anything truly does help. I can promise that if I am blessed enough to achieve this goal, I will spend my life paying it forward. Everyone deserves to be happy. What else is the point in life?
Thank you to everyone who reads this and to those who can support me. Words could never express my gratitude.
